About someone else...

Although I write mostly about myself or always trying to come from my own perspective, I've normally found myself looking at others and trying to make sense of what they do, how they interact.

I call it "modern anthropology", but it's basically just spending time in restaurants, bars, clubs looking at other people... and, more often than not, looking at girls/women.

What still fascinates me are the differences: the different postures, the nature of the smiles, the reactions to events and words, and then obviously the nature of beauty. Not just external beauty, but also the internal beauty... what some call the aura, what I call (just to be different) the "light".

Recently though, I got stuck. Stuck in my view of this beautiful charming world of girl observation.

Stuck because for years I looked for sense in attitudes, in smiles and overall the hollistic view seemed to be whole rather than fragmented, ie, I found that beautiful girls would stay beautiful regardless of circumstances and nice girls would stay nice no matter what pressures they would get from the outside.

Now, I feel fooled by my initial instincts, by what I watched.

Is it possible that women have lost their composure, their apparent "purity", their "unclear" clarity of actions? or have they never had it in the first place and I was just fooled all these years?

I meditated tremendously on this over a couple of G&Ts and some genuinely good tunes at the bar of the hotel I'm staying at and... the conclusion is that I was most probably fooled from day one.

Yet something still doesn't feel right. Instead of being happy with this new insight and looking forward to putting it in practice, I just want to go back to my naive self.

I want to feel that things are simple, even if they really aren't.

I shall call this my "blissfully ignorant" phase.

Smile more!

I was in a reasonably intensive training last week and it was mostly focused on leadership. The key finding: I should smile more.

At this time, some of you will smile or even laugh thinking "One whole week of training and that was the key thing?"

Well, yes, but what an important thing it really is.

I have tried it after I left the training ... even in my own personal life and I've seen change... a major one, not only on how people interact with me and are nicer, but also on how I feel about myself: relaxed, re-invigorated, more patient.

Fantastic what a smile can do, isn't it?

Hummingbirds do fly

Oh yes, they do. Or so I've been told.